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Have you ever known someone, who you felt could not change. You’ve even changed over time, and surprised even yourself.  So you believe in the possibility of change, but this particular person, makes you forget all about that journey.  You just can’t see them changing…

“You see, you just don’t understand,” I can hear you say. I’ve said it.  “You don’t know how they are.  Not everyone chooses to change for the better.”

You’re right.

But if possible, I just want to remind you of the path you’ve taken. Can you remember?  Unless you’re one of the fortunate ones, who were born near perfect, most of us have had to grow into our better selves. Sometimes we rise, and sometimes we fall, but mostly we rise when others believe in our better selves.

It seems to me that all change can be motivated by identity. How we or others see us. The teacher said to me, “you have such potential.” I do? Their belief germinated, until I began to believe.  Yeah, I do, my subconscious mind remembered.

It occurs to me how inseparable love and faith really are. Sometimes we gotta love the crap out of some people before we ever see any results. And no we do not love, as simply a way to get what we want.  Sometimes you are able to love, because you are loved. Sometimes you try to love, because you know that’s the only “way out of madness.”(Gandhi)  We move forward grasping for things hoped for, believing in evidences clearly unseen.

The question then, and possibly the beginning of the cure to what ails planet earth, is, who goes first? Sometimes by our silence, we withhold that vote of confidence so desperately needed by those we claim to love.  They need to hear it.  A fleeting glance from your child, betrays her desire.  She may not know it, or admit it, but she wants your validation.  She needs you to see what she wants to be.

Love someone out of their darkness. See someone with the same degree of flexibility you give yourself.  Make them second guess your vision of their better selves. Make them wonder how you could ever see that in them.